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Thursday, 8 July 2021

THE HYPE ABOUT SEX

 

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The unnecessary hype about sex has made many men to lose their originality in the name of trying to impress their woman. Originality is key in everything including sex and intimacy. Be yourself. Don't try to copy anyone else. All we need is contentment. Although polygyny has a lot to do with sexual capacity, it is not all about that. I discovered and I will not stop saying that the secrets of marital sex is communication, nutrition and mutual understanding of each other's nature. You don't need to cut your life short because of sex. Using Viagra is dangerous. Ask your doctors, they know better. You don't need to do sihr (magic) in order to please your partner sexually.


In my research, I discovered some men go for "gbere" (scarification) in other to proof "strong" in bed. Some women go for magical beads. These are forms of shirk. A man begins to think something is wrong with him just because he doesn't do more than two (2) rounds at a time and he goes to any length to improve just to proof that he deserves more wives. Some women force themselves to go beyond their capacity just to prove their strength or for their men not to begin to think about another wife. All these must stop. Let's try to be real. While it is important to prevent and treat all forms of sexual defects, going beyond bounds is not only unislamic, it harms the body and leads to regrets.


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PHONE PRESSING

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Please note that it is not everyone you see pressing his or her phone always that is not responsible. That phone you are seeing is a mobile office for many these days, especially young entrepreneurs who know the power of IT in the creative sector. 


On the other hand, some people press phone just to upload their pictures for people to see and admire. This is not too good, especially for those who have no meaningful job or reasonable source of income. In fact, some people will beg for data and lavish it on frivolities. All of these things have economic impacts on us. Let us wake up from our slumbers.


The area I think we need serious caution about is self-discipline by which we are meant to know when to and when not to press phone so that it will not put us in problem:


1. When driving or while walking on the street. This is even a no go area. But unfortunately, many of us are guilty.


2. When you are in front of parents or elder or superior at work and your full attention is needed. It is an act of irresponsibility to press phone in these circumstances, except you are doing so on their request or after taken their permissions.


3. When you are in bed with your spouse and he or she needs your full attention. If you must press phone in this situation, seek his or her permission. He or she would understand if it doesn't happen always. 


You can add others that you know please.


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BE FREE WITH YOUR SPOUSE

 





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It is very important to be free with people in a reasonable manner. As a young man or woman who is still single, not being free with people may not really be a problem. If you are in the midst of people, you may not want to talk, may be due to the kind of topics they are discussing that you don't have interest in. But how this affects you after marriage depends on the nature of your spouse. If he or she is quiet like you, both of you may not count it to be anything. But honestly, it not a good life not to be free with people, especially when what is being discussed is beneficial and have a purpose to serve. This can help you to be the best companion with your spouse when you eventually get married. 


In some homes, couples are busy with their phones. No meaningful communication between them. They always want to be away from each other. Even when they are together, they don't go beyond "what do you want to eat", "what do you need", "your bathing water is ready" and so on. Some couples live in their homes as strangers. This is not good at all. 


Some people are generally good at gisting and chatting. Even if you don't want to talk, they know how to create topics. If this is the kind of person you are married to, you have no choice than to blend no matter how quiet you are. Otherwise, there will be problem. One of the things that solidify a marriage is effective communication. Your spouse must be your best gist mate. Most women love conversation and they hate it when you don't engage them at home by listening and contributing to what they say or do. Even if you are not really interested, still listen and contribute to the best of your ability. This is one of factors that defines mutual respect in marriage. Some men too are like this. They can gist from morning till night. If their wives behave like sadists, shaytān can push them to seek an unlawful alternative. This can also prompt the the thought of taking another wife or getting a divorce as the case may be.


One of the ways to keep your home alive is to be a husband or wife that can gist very well with your spouse both online and offline. Even when couples are far from one another, it is now very easy. We have no excuse again, the social media has so much simplified our interactions. We have to make positive use of it. You must learn how to joke and play. There are many ways of manufacturing topics. It shouldn't necessarily be a topic that leads to gossip or backbiting. If any of the parties is going beyond the bounds, there are diplomatic ways of changing the topic to a beneficial one.


May Allāh bless us and our homes.



Saturday, 19 June 2021

POWER OF INNOVATION

 

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If you are finding things hard, do not lose hope. Don't rush to become a fraudster. Don't rush to become a beggar. Go and search for knowledge (both worldly and religious) and think of what you can do with it. Knowledge elevates. Knowledge and innovation brings fortune by the Will of Allāh.


I was with Malam Yūnus Olukodo few days back and we were talking about the new Zoom logo. He said Covid-19 made its founder rich. I said that is the power of knowledge and innovation. Knowledge is not just to be acquired for pride or fame. This is the missing link in our educational system in Nigeria. We need to seek knowledge that will be beneficial. We need knowledge that will be solving problems. We have too many professors in many fields who are not solving problems. We must begin to think of the future. We should always think "what if?". 



Covid-19 came suddenly, but some people have envisaged that situation by building technologies that people would not be able to do without and they made it through their inventions. There are many areas to be explored. Knowledge is wide. The more you think, read or study, the more you grow. We need to surround ourselves with the right people in order succeed in our innovation drive. We can use our talents to bring food to the table and do many other useful things. 


On the occasion of the launching of my book: Halāl Sex and Intimacy on 19th December, 2020, the Director-General, Nigerian Copyright Commission (NCC), Mr. John O. Asein said and I quote:


Truly, "A man's (and a woman's) gift maketh room for him, and bringeth him before great men". I pray that our individual and collective gifts will make way for us. I urge everyone of us to be encouraged in using our talents as part of the tools for realisation of our destinies. Once again, I congratulate the Ilorin Office and the entire NCC Family on this feat. The Almighty will give us immeasurable grace to do more.



FINANCIAL DISCIPLINE



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I have been wanting to write something on financial discipline and the need to prioritise our parent and immediate family in whatever plan we might be having on our monthly stipends. In an attempt to achieve many things within a short while, many young men take heavy loans that often have adverse effects on their household. 



Taking heavy loan and servicing same with around 80% of your salary is not the problem. The problem is when you do not have alternative source(s) of income to make your family live a decent life. I know people who don't even care about their salaries. They use everything to serve loans. But they have alternative means of income. The welfare of our family should be a matter of immediate concern to us. Thinking that you can splash almost the whole of your salary on loan and beg to feed yourself and family for the rest of the month is not the best. This is becoming very common these days.


To be a gradual achiever with dignity is better than losing your prestige as a reckless achiever.




Sunday, 28 March 2021

UNDERSTANDING YOUR SPOUSE'S SEXUAL MOOD

(For married and prospective spouses only)


By

IbnAbdillah As-sudaisiy Al-IIoori

27th March, 2021


When there is a crisis between a couple, a lot of things can happen. It is the duty of both parties to be very careful not to allow shaytān hijack the situation because there is no marriage without trials. Any married man or woman who says he or she has never had any reason to quarrel with his or her spouse, no matter how small is only being economical with the truth. No matter what, something will happen that will lead it to something. May Allāh protect us


Sometimes, a dispute between a couple may occur and a spouse can be emotionally or psychologically affected. For instance, a woman may lose her mental health that may columnate into a depression or similar issue. She might feel that she needs a space to recover from a painful incident that has affected her sanity adversely. A marital trouble can make a woman lose interest in domestic duties, including but not limited to cooking and chores, even if she tries to force herself to engage in them. 


The same condition can also make her to lose interest completely in anything pertaining to sex or intimacy. Marital dispute is one of the psychological issues that can lead to hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD) as I have discussed in the book 'Halāl Sex and Intimacy, page 154-155. This situation is not peculiar to women, it can affect a man too and can also be as a result of several other psychological factors, and not necessarily just marital issues. It could be as result of stress, self medication, chronic diseases etc.


Generally, a woman is not allowed to refrain from having sex with her husband if her husband asks for it directly or indirectly. It is prohibited under the sharī'ah for a woman to refuse to have sex with her husband if he calls her to bed, without any tangible reason. But when a woman is going through a condition that is capable of affecting her sexual interest or instinct, the husband should try to understand and not insist on having sex with her against her wish (See my discussion on marital rape in the book Halāl Sex and Intimacy page 107). And if it is a man that is affected, his wife should try to understand and not allege her husband wrongly of sex starvation. 


This is why communication is key in a marital relationship. There is no perfect marriage. There is bound to crises, no matter how little. Things can happen that can get either or both parties weak or depressed. But with time, they will get over it and act as if nothing had happened. This is how marriage is. Every would be couples must be enlightened. 


If there is effective dialogue and understanding between a couple,  both parties will get used to any strange situation and would not complain about lack of sex and other inadequacies of their partner. A man will understand the situation of his wife even without her saying anything. The wife will also understand her man. The mental and physical health and well being of a spouse will be paramount to his or partner. Sex and other intimate activities are best engaged in when parties are in the mood. As sweet as sex is, it can be sometimes disgusting and irritating. It is just like your favourite food. It is not every time you see it that you will feel like eating it.


What is the essence of having sex with a woman against her wish. The woman will just be like, "just do whatever you want to do and stand up". The man will just be like, "let me just do it so that she can let me be". As I mentioned in the book 'Halāl Sex and Intimacy (page 100-101, sex timing is very important in marriage. But when there is lack of understanding, this kind of situation can lead to anything, including divorce. Allāh's aid is sought.


*This article is dedicated to Sambo Dare Ibrahim Al Iloori, AbdulHakeem Adeyemi who got married today and Rukayyah Bakare who is getting married tomorrow in Sha Allāh. May Allāh bless their union and put bārakah in their homes.



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Sunday, 21 March 2021

DON'T WRECK YOUR WOMEN

 


By

Ibn Abdillah As-sudaisiy Al-IIoori

The truth is that we don't have any replacement for women in the roles they are to play in the building of a society. They are exceptional creations of Allāh. 


It is however worrisome when a man on the other hand fails to perform his own duties and the woman has no other choice than to lift them on her head coupled with the ones she is already carrying. This is how a lot of women are overburdened in our society today. In some homes, the woman by some implications is the man and the woman at the same time. She will be the one to carry pregnancy for 9 months, deliver it in a live and death circumstance, suckle the children for two years, clean faeces, cook, clean the house, take children lessons and would still be the one to be thinking of what the family would eat, the rent, what the kids would wear, how the school fees of the children would be paid and so on. 


Men whose homes are like this should fear Allāh and do the right thing. Don't wreck your women with burdens. 


May Allāh make it easy.

THEIR FRUSTRATION OVER HIJĀB

 


By

Ibn Abdillah As-sudaisiy Al-IIoori


The hijāb debate in Kwara State and the silence of "human rights activists" in Nigeria is a threat to the doctrine of universality of human rights. By the provisions of the Universal Human Rights Declaration of 1948, Human Rights are universal in that they are meant to apply to all manners of people regardless of their status in the society. As George Ayyittey noted, human rights are inalienable, indivisible and interrelated. The inalienability of Human Rights lies in the fact that they are inherent in every human being and cannot be taken away at any point in time except in some specific exceptional situations based on the provisions of the law. 


Anyone who is keen about the global debate on hijāb, especially as it relates to Leyla Sahin's case in Turkey will know bigotry has no gain. In that case, Judge Tulkens held in a dissenting judgment that based on Article 9 of the European Convention on Human Rights, the freedom of religion is not merely to have a religion (the internal conviction) but to manifest the religion (the expression of that conviction). While dismissing the lame argument advanced by the Respondent to blackmail and link Leyla with extremism, Judge Tulkens, a non-Muslim further said while everyone is aware of the need to prevent radical Islamism, merely wearing the hijāb cannot be associated with fundamentalism and it is vital to distinguish between those who wear the hijāb and “extremists” who seek to impose the hijāb on non-Muslims. She added that not all women who wear the hijāb are fundamentalists and there is nothing to suggest that the applicant (Leyla Sahin) is one.


It is imperative to trace the historical genesis of the ongoing crisis on hijāb in Kwara Stats. The truth is that the Muslims, especially in the Northern Nigeria were not illiterates before colonialism. There were learned people and their official language was Arabic. The leaders established a model of an Islāmic state with sophisticated judicial, economic, social and spiritual systems. 


The region enjoyed peace and tranquility until the arrival of the colonialists. They were not without their mission to christianize the entire country and they succeed to large extent before eyes became open. Many Muslim children who went to school were converted and those who were not converted didn't return with their senses. You will see many bearing Muslim names without Islām. All the evils we have in our societies today are based on viruses contacted from those schools. They didn't see any harm in marrying disbelievers. They spread viruses like drinking, smoking, courtship, dating, feminism, modernism, reception during marriage events and so on.


This perhaps was what made some of our forefathers to stand against the so called western education in the first place. The damage done by those schools to our religion was unquantifiable. But Sheikh Muhammad Kamaludeen Al-Adabiy رحمه الله and those who shared his foresight insisted that Muslim children would go to school, but the schools would be established under the Arabic institutions. This was what gave birth to Islāmic missionary schools in Ilorin and some parts of Yorubaland. The likes of Ansaru ud Deen and Nawair us Deen probably started before Ansarul Islām. This was what saved many of our parents and us too by extention from their evil plots. 


The mission of the Christian Missionaries anywhere they establish schools and churches is to conquer the host communities religiously, socially and economically. The case of Ilorin is not an exception. They have always been trying to christianize us in many ways. They succeeded in some aspects and failed woefully in many regard. It is a form of exaggeration for anyone to say he can count thousands of Ilorin indigens who are Christians. 



They had a grand plan to infiltrate us the way they did in many Yoruba communities whereby you will find Christians and Muslims in almost equal proportion in the same family. They didn't succeed in this regard in Ilorin. The resistance is very strong. They are only able to lure the glaringly ignorant ones whose foundation of Islām are nothing to write home about. This is a great disappointment for them. So, all the frustrations regarding hijāb of Muslim students in public schools hitherto owned by the missionaries have their genesis in the failed attempts to conquer us completely. 


I cannot forget a time when they will send preachers to the nooks and crannies of Ilorin for evangelism. There were equally several attempts to invade Oke-Male area with their Palm Sunday annual processions. The security of the community was compromised on many occasions in this light. This is where our level of condonance in the name of religious tolerance has landed us. They have now surrounded us with Churches in almost every parts of the Community that we used to call "eyin ilu" (surburb). Some people were deceived and lured successfully. Allāh guides whoever He wishes, and He changes the mind of whoever He wishes. It is important for us to keep learning our religion properly in order not to exchange gold with plaited gold. The only acceptable religion in sight of Allāh is Islām. But if a Muslim is ignorant and nonchalant about his Deen, it will be easy for him to be deceived with lies and fake miracles.


When we want to degrade ourselves, we say their schools are better than our's. The truth is that we have friends who attended Muslim and community schools then and they were far better than us in academics, even though we might be speaking better English. They are highly overrated because we taught education is just about speaking English. At the end of the day, everyone is able to communicate to an extent. While I believe in the need for us to improve and develop our Muslim and community schools, sometimes, it is not about the institution, it depends largely on individuals. 


But ultimately, going to where one's faith will be jeopardised is very dangerous and not the best. Take your kids to where their faith will be adequately protected while not compromising standard. The hereafter is more important. Allāh will put barakah in whatever they learn. It was Allāh who saved us. They nearly snatched us. Even by the word "mission", you will know that they have a mission and they have been executing it since before we now begin to wake up. Even when we got to the unity schools, they have all their agents stationed there. If not for MSSN and some home training, we would have been snatched.

After flipping through the purported 3rd July, 1972 Address of the Former Governor of Kwara State, Col. D. L. Bamigboye stating that there wasn't yet a take-over of the "missionary" schools in Kwara State, I am sure they must have presented the said Address as part of their evidences in the High Court and Court of Appeal, yet they lost at both stages against the State Government. Apart from these judgments in favour of the State Government on ownership of the schools, we have High Court and Court Appeal judgements on the right of hijāb. So, why are they taking laws into their hands? They should go to Supreme Court, and obtain a stay of execution pending their appeal if at all they think they have a case. 


In the lead judgment delivered by Saidu Tanko Husseini, JCA in the case of Incorporated Trustees of CAN and Ors v. Kwara State Government and Ors (CA/IL/108/2016) on Thursday, 20th September, 2019, the Court of Appeal said and I quote verbatim:


The submission made on behalf of the appellants that section 38(3) of the Constitution allow them or give them the exclusive right to make Christianity the only norm in the schools under focus is only wishful thinking. Such is not tenable in a heterogenous set-up such as the schools under focus where students and pupils alike do not belong to the same religious community or denomination. Students and pupils of those schools came from different backgrounds and so there is no semblance of homogeneity amongst theses students as to permit the imposition of the practice, the appellants have in mind over those schools. In Esabunor v. Faweya (2008) 12 NWLR (Pt. 1102) 794, 870, the court held that every student must be given the right to choose the course of his/her life fashioned on what he/she believes in and reserve the right not to be coerced into acting contrary to one’s religious beliefs. There is no evidence on the printed record that the1st – 3rd respondents have coerced the appellants or students of the schools in focus into acting contrary to their religious beliefs.


Then, what is more soothing about the judgment is the concurrent opinion of the learned B. M Ugo JCA, a Christian in the panel who remarked thus:


My learned brother, Saidu Tanko Husaini, JCA, availed me his very well reasoned leading judgment in this appeal. I am in complete agreement with his Lordship’s reasoning and conclusion on everyi issue I have nothing useful to add and here adopt his judgment as mine. I also dismiss the appeal and affirm the judgment of the trial Judge.


All forms of bigotry has no gain. They lead to chaos and anarchy. Islām has taught us to speak the truth even if it is against us. The fact that someone is not of the same religion or ethic group with you doesn't mean you shouldn't say the truth. Your hatred for someone should not lead you to injustice against him. 


Up till now, most of our media organizations and so called human rights groups are still quiet or saying something else entirely. Their hypocrisy has been exposed beyond bounds. I commend TVC for seeking clarification and supporting the truth.


The action of the so called missionary schools stopping Muslim students from wearing hijāb in public schools funded with tax payers money in a state dominated by Muslims despite series of court court  decisions and without any notice of appeal is not only wicked, it is a peak of lawlessness in our society. Even if approach the Supreme Court and it rules in their favour that they own the schools, that doesn't still give them the audacity to tamper with the right of Muslim students in those schools. In as much as they have Muslim students in those school, they have their right to wear hijāb. 


The issue of hijāb has to do with a fundamental Human Right guaranteed by S. 38 of the 1999 Constitution (as amended). It is unstoppable even at the global stage, let alone national or local levels. If we can convince the Council of Legal Education (Nigerian Law School) and Body of Benchers on the right of hijāb in public institutions in relation to Firdausi's case, then who are the so called missionaries? 


In the case of Bashirat Saliu and Ors v. Kwara State College of Education, Ilorin, the State High Court while giving judgement in favour of the applicant said the fundamental rights granted by the constitution could only be limited by the constitution and not by mere school regulation. The Court further held that the prohibition of the veil by the respondents (Kwara State College of Education) could not be brought within the permitted limits to freedom of religion stipulated under section 45 of the Constitution. 


When the matter got to the Court of Appeal, all the issues formulated were ruled in favour of the respondent. Mukhtar JCA said inter alia:


“The lower courts order directing the appellants to restore the respondents to their classrooms like other students is directly linked with the alleged violation of the respondents' fundamental right to freedom of religion. The entire proceedings for the enforcement of fundamental right would tantamount to a complete sham or nonsense if the respondents at the end of the day stand to suffer the consequences of the alleged violation. The order made by the lower court that the respondents be restored to their classrooms was not only necessary but also secures and enhances the enforcement of the respondents' fundamental right. I am unable to fault the decision made by the lower court on the 8th May 2006. This court has no business tempering with that decision. The last issue is similarly resolved against the appellants”


So, by virtue of my research on Human Rights and Hijāb Cases in Nigeria, I submit that the agitations of the so called missionaries are dead on arrival. There are several Court decisions upholding right of hijāb within and outside Nigeria. Just as Allāh said, the Kuffār will never be pleased with you until you are ready to follow their path. They will not be pleased with you except you are ready to compromise your faith. 


Meanwhile, our glory in Ilorin, is in following and adhering to the Sunnah and the Path of the Companions رضي الله عنهم because this is what Islām truly represents. Those who ought to stand for us in this trying time are busy chasing money at naming ceremonies and fidau. The humiliation that we are now facing is as a result of fighting Sunnah, promoting bid'ah of different kinds and imitating the Kuffār in almost everything we are doing. An example of this was when Mudir Markaz attacked this same hijāb openly in many of his faulty comments. Who did we see? We also have many parents attacking their children for wearing the proper hijāb and adhering to Sunnah. 


The only solution that we have is to return back to the foundations of our Deen ('aqeedah and Sunnah). Ibn 'Umar reported that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:


 إِذَا تَبَايَعْتُمْ بِالْعِينَةِ وَأَخَذْتُمْ أَذْنَابَ الْبَقَرِ وَرَضِيتُمْ بِالزَّرْعِ وَتَرَكْتُمُ الْجِهَادَ سَلَّطَ اللَّهُ عَلَيْكُمْ ذُلاًّ لاَ يَنْزِعُهُ حَتَّى تَرْجِعُوا إِلَى دِينِكُمْ


I heard the Messenger of Allah, (ﷺ) say: When you enter into the inah transaction, hold the tails of oxen, are pleased with agriculture, and give up conducting jihad (struggle in the way of Allah). Allah will make disgrace prevail over you, and will not withdraw it until you return to your original religion. (Reported by Abu Dawūd and authentic according to Al-Albaani)


We need to know and understand that the proper hijāb is the full hijāb (khimār) and there is no compromise on it in Sha Allāh. But every religious effort is a gradual process. A sister who wears full hijab today probably started with a headscarf, then pashmina, then knee hijāb. If some people tell you their journey in life and where they are coming from, you will be patient when admonishing them. 


We need to begin to appreciate people's efforts, encourage them and pray for them to do better things. For instance, if a woman wraps a non transparent pashmina with a spacious garment (not tightening one), her appearance is better than that of the beret (cap) users or those who don't even cover their heads at all. But she can get better by using full hijāb and even niqāb in Sha Allāh. A Muslim woman should not stop striving till she achieves this feat. May Allāh make it easy for our women to use the proper hijāb as enshrined in the Qur'ān and Sunnah.


In conclusion, in every trial, there are always lessons and benefits. Perhaps, one of the benefits of the ongoing hijāb crisis in Ilorin could be that every Muslim home would adopt full hijāb (or even niqāb) for their wives and female children anytime they step out and in the presence of strangers. 


As we unite to reject and fight discrimination against hijāb in our Secondary Schools, henceforth, we should not be hearing of any case of victimization of wives and female children by husbands and parents respectively on account of choosing to wear the hijāb. If you are with us on this struggle and you still allow your wife and children to dress to kill or go out without the prescribed hijāb, you need to seek more knowledge of Islām (Sunnah) and act accordingly. May Allāh make it easy.



Tuesday, 26 January 2021

DEATH OF HON. JUSTICE ABDULKADIR ORIRE





By

Ibn Abdillah As-sudaisiy Al-Iloori

It was just two days ago that a brother messaged me he was looking for the works of Hon. Justice AbdulKadir Orire and Hon. Justice Muttalib Ambali. I directed him to the Library of Kwara State Sharī'ah Court of Appeal for their publications. This was what first came to my mind when I saw the news of the death of the pioneer Grand Kadi of Kwara State, Hon. Justice AbdulKadir Orire (Rtd). His service to Islām in this part of the world is clear for everyone to see. He mentored many conscious and dedicated Muslims. He was a teacher of repute, a jurist and orator per excellence. 


I grew up knowing the former Secretary-General of Jamatu Nasril Islām for nothing other than service to Islām and humanity. He was a source of inspiration to us as we were growing up. If any matter relating to Islām was raised, he was the first person to be mentioned in the whole of Ilorin and Kwara as whole. Perhaps, this earned him the title "Marafan Iloori" and later "Sarkin Malami of Ilorin". He had many outstanding judgments and publications to his credit. He was instrumental to the creation of many Islāmic da'wah and welfare organizations. He single handedly founded Islāmic Missionaries Association of Nigeria (IMAN) that nurtured many Muslim youths through its Annual Ramadan Lectures. What I will never forget as a small child then was how he used host iftar of the last day of every month of Ramadan at IMAN Center. We used to look forward to it then.


Lastly, when I was NAMLAS President at Unilorin, I went through the honours roll and couldn't find Justice Orire's name. I found it embarrassing considering the role he played in the establishment of Faculty of Law, University of Ilorin and his dedication to the cause of shar'iah education, not only in Kwara State, but Nigeria as a whole. So, we had to call for submission of papers for publication of NAMLAS Journal of Law and Religion in his honour. By the leave of Allāh, my successor, Adam Muhammad ensured that the project saw the light of the day. Some of his outstanding articles were published in that journal. He will be greatly missed. Only Allāh can console us.


May Allāh forgive and have mercy on him



Sunday, 24 January 2021

NEED FOR MEMORIZERS OF THE QUR'AN TO STICK TO THE SUNNAH





By

Ibn Abdillah As-sudaisiy Al-Iloori


It is highly precious and enviable to memorize the Qur'an with tajweed, melodious voice and several riwaayaat. But the most important thing is for it to lead you to correct 'aqeedah and manhaj. The Qur'an you have memorized should be enough to guide you towards the practice of Islaam based on the Sunnah of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم, and not the other way round. 


History shows that the khawaarij have great reciters of the Qur'an, yet they are described as dogs of hell-fire because of their deviance. Today, there are many people who memorized the Qur'an and still belong to sects that have deviated from the Sunnah. This is very dangerous because it doesn't take Allah anything to reject anything that He doesn't want and the effort of memorizing the Qur'an may become futile. May Allah save us from this. 


In fact, a person who memorizes the Qur'an among the people of Sunnah is not sure whether Allah would accept it from him, let alone someone who memorizes the Qur'an and perpetrate grievous sins, bid'ah and kufr. What is the benefit of your Qur'an memorization when it doesn't stop you from hating and cursing the Companions رضي الله عنهم?; of what significance is your Qur'an memorization when you are always found in various bid'ah gathering here and there? What is the essence of your Qur'an memorization when you hate the Sunnah and attack anyone who calls towards it?


May Allah guide us aright.

LET US TREAD THE CLEAR PATH TOGETHER



By

Ibn Abdillah As-sudaisiy Al-Iloori

Let none of us tread the path of misguidance and think it is a path of guidance, and let's not abandon the path of guidance (the way of the salaf) thinking it is a wrong path. The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم had made everything so clear for us by telling us to stick to his Sunnah and the Sunnah of his Companions رضي الله عنهم. In a statement attributed to 'Umar ibn Al-khattaab رضي الله عنه, he said:


لا عذر لأحد في ضلالة ركبها حسبها هدى، ولا في هدى تركه حسبه ضلالة، فقد بينت الأمور، وثبتت الحجة، وانقطع العذر


"There is no excuse for anyone going astray, thinking he is upon guidance, nor abandoning guidance thinking it to be misguidance. Indeed, the affairs (of the religion) has been made clear and proof established and (any form of excuse) is cut off" [See pg25 of Sharh us Sunnah]


In addition to this, 'Irbaad ibn Saariyah رضي الله الله عنه reported that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:


"....I have left you upon clear guidance, its night is like its day, no one deviates from it after me, except that he is destroyed.." [Reported by Ahmad, Ibn Maajah, and Al-Haakim. Considered sound and authentic by Al-albaani]


May Allah make it easy for us to abide by the Sunnah and die upon it.



NO EXCUSE TO DEVIATE



By

Ibn Abdillah As-sudaisiy Al-Iloori


The truth is that if our forefathers had had the opportunity of knowing what we now know today in term of truth, perhaps, many of them wouldn't have done some of what they did the way they did them. They could have corrected their mistakes. But their knowledge was limited and Allah would judge them based on that. May Allah forgive them and have mercy on them. In the modern day, a Muslim can sit in his room and have access to finest Islamic materials all pointing to the importance of taoheed and strict adherence to the prophetic Sunnah. 


So, there is no excuse for any of us not to follow the authentic Islam. Anyone who insist on the ways of our babas in this era is only doing injustice to himself because on the Day of Judgment, his taqleed (blind following) of his forefathers would put him into serious problems. His defence that he followed Baba so and so will not assist him because those babas were past generations, they would be judged based on what they knew and practised and we would judged by what we know and practise today. Allah says:


تِلْكَ أُمَّةٌ قَدْ خَلَتْ ۖ لَهَا مَا كَسَبَتْ وَلَكُمْ مَا كَسَبْتُمْ ۖ وَلا تُسْأَلُونَ عَمَّا كَانُوا يَعْمَلُونَ


That was a nation which has passed on. It will have [the consequence of] what it earned, and you will have what you have earned. And you will not be asked about what they used to do. [Surat Al-Baqarah 134, Sahih International]


This verse shows that it is dangerous for anyone in this time of Our's to hang his Islam upon what those babas did in their own time with their limited knowledge. We should all hang our Islam upon the Sunnah of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم as understood and practised by his Companions رضي الله عهم. Anything short of this is misguidance. May Allah save us from it. Allah does not recognize any of our forefathers in any of the texts (Qur'an and Sunnah). He سبحانه وتعالى only recognize the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم and his Companions رضي الله عنهم in many verses of the Qur'an and hadiths. They are the ones to be followed in order to excel in the practice of Islam. Whoever fails to pick his religion from them has missed the way and there would not be any excuse for him on the Day of Judgment.


 

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AQEEDAH FIRST





By
Ibn Abdillah As-sudaisiy Al-Iloori

Sometimes when you are warning people against things that are prohibited in Islam, and they still go ahead doing them, don't be surprised. How much of matters of 'aqeedah have you been able to install in their memory before discussing other issues? The answer to this question would let you know why it is often difficult to convince people who are yet to understand 'aqeedah to adhere to the Sunnah and abstain from prohibited (haram) things. 

By Allah, adequate knowledge of 'aqeedah (taoheed) is the first thing that would make a Muslim realize the importance of placing Allah and His Messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم in whatever he does. If a person doesn't know about Allah, His names and attributes, how would he be able to give Him His due rights? When you say: "Allah says", he will just be looking at you as if you are the one saying it. If a person doesn't know the Prophet صلى لله عليه وسلم in his true sense and his status in the deen of Islam, how would he be able to understand the sanctity of obeying him and giving him and his Sunnah due regard and honour. If you read hadith to him, he will just be arguing with his own ra'y (personal reasoning). 

Many times, when we advise one another to go and learn 'aqeedah, some people think one is claiming to have knowledge. That is a wrong thought. What we seek to achieve by that advice is sanity of thought and reasoning. Scholars who are upon Sunnah have agreed that one of the most stupid things to do is to argue the deen with people who lack sound understanding of taoheed. You will be saying A, they will be saying B. You will be quoting texts, they will be using personal thoughts. They will waste your time and energy. An average Muslim is expected know the divisions of taoheed and apply them in his activities. A Muslim must know and understand the role of the Companions رضي الله عنهم in the deen and give them due regard and respect. A Muslim must know all these matters with their daleel in the Qur'an and Sunnah, apply them all the time, teach them to other people, and be patient upon any hardship he faces in the course of doing this.

Let's ask ourselves, how many Muslims know these things the way they should be known? A lot of people just bear Muslim by name and not by knowledge and application. So, the reason why it is often difficult for people to understand the sanctity of obeying the Messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم is that they don't actually know who he really is. This is a strong matter of 'aqeedah that we should first get into people's head before any other thing. Someone is yet to understand the position of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم in Islam, and you are reading hadiths prohibiting protest against constituted authority to him, he will not understand. Someone is yet to understand taoheed, you are telling him about hadiths on cutting of hair moderately and evil of attaching false hairs, it will not enter. Even if it enters, the person might not know why he or she is accepting it. It is important to first teach people the basis upon which their obedience to Allah and His Messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم is built.

May Allah guide us aright.



KNOWLEDGE FIRST



By

 Ibn Abdillah As-sudaisiy Al-Iloori

It is crucial fo us to know that our knowledge of Islam is more important than any other kind of knowledge because it relates to our essence of creation. Allah hasn't created us to come and play here. He created us for worship, and it is wajib for us to learn how to worship Him. If we can't learn our deen on full-time basis, let us strive to learn it on part-time basis. But we must make sure we learn it from the people of Sunnah. May Allah put barakah in the little we are able to learn and count us among the successful ones. It baffles the heart that  when one tries to explain true Islam (Sunnah) to even "highly educated" people, and yet they don't understand. But the statement of Allah on this is clear:


إِنَّكَ لَا تَهْدِي مَنْ أَحْبَبْتَ وَلَٰكِنَّ اللَّهَ يَهْدِي مَنْ يَشَاءُ ۚ وَهُوَ أَعْلَمُ بِالْمُهْتَدِينَ


Indeed, [O Muhammad], you do not guide whom you like, but Allah guides whom He wills. And He is most knowing of the [rightly] guided. [Surat Al-Qasas 56, Sahih International]


According to Sheikh Mauhammad ibn 'Abdilwahhab in his Kitabu Taoheed, this verse was revealed to the Prophet صلىالله عليه وسلم when he was trying to convince his uncle, Abu Taalib to accept Islam, when he was about to die. He eventually died a kaafir. It was clear that even the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم does not have the power to guide whomever he wishes. Guidance is in Allah's Hand. All callers to Islam and authentic sunnah are only trying their best. The decree of Allah would prevail at the end. The worst of the ignorant people is he who does not know he doesn't know, because he would not make any effort towards learning. He would remain ignorant, dull and retarded. 


May Allah save us from this.