MUSLIM WEDDINGS AND NEGATION OF THE SHARI'AH

By

Sanusi Lafiagi

Parents and couples must fear Allāh and the Last Day when they shall stand before Him to account for all their deeds. They should not assume that the wedding day is any special in the sight of Allāh as to exempt their wrongdoings on the day from accountability. They should know that the angels responsible for recording of our deeds are never on break or leave as to miss a microscopic part of our lives. No matter how minute or insignificant a thing might be, it never escapes the perfect record of the angels.

These days, the things that characterize the Muslim wedding leave one wondering whether we are true adherents of the Islamic faith. Without mincing words, it is safe to conclude that there’s almost nothing Islamic about many of our wedding ceremonies today. From women wearing all kinds of satanic dresses that leave a substantial and sensitive part of their bodies exposed, to wearing attractive makeups and colognes, to free mixing between opposite genders, to playing and dancing to music, et cetera, there seems not to be any noticeable difference between the weddings of Muslims and those of the Kuffār.

Yesterday, a colleague attended a wedding event and was left completely flabbergasted by the unfortunate turnouts of things. In fact, to be sure that I believe her story, she recorded a short clip which she forwarded to me upon her return. What happened?

The MC, who himself was a Muslim told the couple to stand up, hold themselves and do a kissing competition to the exhilaration and ecstasy of their parents, relatives and friends, some of whom quickly ran to the stage to snap and make video record of the shameful (but entertaining) act. According to her, the kissing match lasted for well over a minute before it was called off. 

As if that was not enough, the MC started asking the couple very stupid and idiotic questions such as during sex, who occupies what position, how many styles are there, et cetera, to which the couple responded gleefully. 

What a shame!!!

We must understand that inasmuch as couples have a right to mutual sexual enjoyment, it is harām to engage in such seductive things in public. In fact, scholars of Islām do not generally approve of couples holding hands in public (without conditions), let alone cuddling, frolicking, smooching or kissing each other in full public glare under the guise of “after all, we are married.”

It is a shameful act for supposed Muslims to descend so low in their imitation of Kuffār as to lose all sense of sanity and decorum. What is even more shameful is that some of these things happen in the presence of Alfas and they will all keep quiet about it.

Some of the Alfas here are also encouraging this irresponsible act among the people. Imagine a supposed Alfa telling a couple to recite Fātiha in their palms, spittle on them and rub them on the limb that they cherish most in the partner’s body!!! In which book of Islām do we find this???

اقْتَرَبَ لِلنَّاسِ حِسَابُهُمْ وَهُمْ فِي غَفْلَةٍ مُّعْرِضُونَ مَا يَأْتِيهِم مِّن ذِكْرٍ مِّن رَّبِّهِم مُّحْدَثٍ إِلَّا اسْتَمَعُوهُ وَهُمْ يَلْعَبُونَ لَاهِيَةً قُلُوبُهُمْ ۗ

“The Day of Accountability for mankind is getting closer and closer, yet they are heedless and are turning away from the admonition. They listen with ridicule to each fresh warning that comes to them from their Rabb and remain engaged in the sports. With their hearts ˹totally˺ distracted. The evildoers would converse...” (Q.21:1-3)