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Mubaarak Olayemi Ismail 

Amongst the things that is often difficult for us to do is forgiving other people when they have wronged us and it is more difficult when there are elements of justification and self vindication in our hearts, but do we actually need it?

Why do we have to tie unhealthy knots and knot dangerous ties in our hearts when there are better ways to live?

There are times you will say you have forgiven them but you still bottle some ill feelings in our heart, do you know you are missing a lot by that?

Human beings are fallible and their actions may sometimes be difficult for us to forgive, especially when it deals with our image of personality, wealth or other things that are very dear to us,  but Allah and his prophet sallalahu alayhi wa sallam have advised us in several passages to forgive people no matter how difficult it is.

Allah says :
"And indeed, the hour is coming, so forgive with gracious forgiving"[Hijr 15:85]

“And whoever is patient and forgives - indeed, that is of the matters [requiring] determination”[ash-Shoora 42:43]

Get this,
Mistah bn Uthaathah was among poor that depended on Abubakr for living, but do you know how painful it will be for Abubakr to know that this same person he cares for was among the people who were slandering his beloved daughter, Aa'isha, very hurtful right?! As human, Abubakr also vowed not to spend on him again, but Allah revealed a very powerful ayah in this regard that changed Abu bakr's mind, this ayah is so powerful that is will be enough if we can write out this ayah on a paper and paste it at our bedside, that we will have to see it every time we wake up and when we are about to sleep, Allah says :

"And let them pardon and overlook. Would you not like that Allah should forgive you? And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful”
[an-Noor 24:22] .

"Would you not like Allah should forgive you? " ... That is the powerful question there, ask yourself, if you truly want Allah to forgive you, why won't you forgive others.

Remember that Allah has set his rules many years before you were born, but you still chose to wrong him even when you are quite sure that he is seeing you... Is there any word that can qualify the greatness of your deed and disrespect to Allah when you wrong him, yet you want him to forgive you but you refused to forgive others whose their offence to you  is nothing compared to yours to Allah, why don't you forgive them now, would you not like Allah should forgive you?

Remember your grave sins that Allah has concealed from people, you know that you are full of filth but Allah make people see you as saint, what has that person done to you that you are  telling everyone, can you compare what he did to you with what you are doing to Allah, why not forgive him,  would you not like Allah to forgive you?!

And if choose to forgive, Allah says:

"But if you pardon and overlook and forgive - then indeed, Allah is Forgiving and Merciful”[at-Taghaabun 64:14]

And by pardoning others, apart from Allah will also forgive us, we will also earn honour and benevolence from Allah.

The prophet sallalahu alayhi wa sallam said :
"No one forgives except Allah increases his honour"

Be honourable, forgive people before you sleep every night, determine to forgive people when you wake up everyday, forgive people and continue with your kindness, Allah says:

"Take forgiveness and call to righteous and turn away from the ignorant"(7:199)

Now, think of anyone that has offended you, visit them and make tasleem to them or pick your phone and call or message to greet them and better still, send them gifts, no matter how small... Let the love rebuilds again!

May Allah ease our affairs.

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