GARMENT OF COMPASSION: RAWSHEEDAH AKOREDE'S REVIEW

By

Rawsheedah Akorede Saheed, FPMC, CMRC

Author, Vivacious Lady

While reading the book, from the beginning, it reminded me of a book I once read, where the author mentioned how women are expected to behave with their husbands. Men expect us (women) to be the opposite of them.We as women are not meant to make jokes with the other gender or even laugh loudly...which goes to show that, we are expected to be meek and girly. A man would naturally want to come home to a kind woman waiting to embrace him in her bosom, after the stress he might have gone through at work which means, a wife is expected to be her husband's peace.

This book also reminds me of how a woman should make sure she is always embracing her feminine nature and never let society make her feel less of a woman. I know the book is meant to be a garment of compassion, which is basically about sex, but one thing I have come to realize in my years of working with women is that, to be able to get a man to do whatever it is you want as a wife (halal things of course), you must have mastered the art of making use of your feminine power by being vulnerable, kind and nurturing. It is in the nature of women to be kind and compassionate, and Allah has blessed us with the innate nature to be nurturers, which makes it easy for us to be able to engage more in physical intimacy (touch and play) and when this aspect of our marriage is strong, by Allah, sexual intimacy becomes something enjoyable and not seen as a chore or to be scheduled.

Again, when I got to the grooming part, it became interesting, and it is easier for me to agree with the author because this is mostly what I encourage women to do, to be a woman and act like a woman, you must be intentional about grooming, forget what the society has said about skincare being extra, a woman is expected to take extra care of herself for her husband, a man that goes out to work will meet different women from all facets of life, it is only fair that he comes home to a woman that is more sensual than those he sees out there, so he does not start comparing you to the ones that are usually in his face, no amount is too much for a woman to spend on her grooming, as long as she can afford it and isn't doing too much(which is relative).

A woman is expected to look good and smell good and for that to happen, she must be intentional about caring for herself and taking time to do this. There is a way all these makes intimacy more bonding; her husband would want to hug her more when he realizes she smells good, and he would want to be more intimate with her when he sees the effort she makes. I don't want to go on and on about the gems in this book because I might not stop at a single page.

I recommend this book to all couples.

May Allah bless this for you sir