MARITAL INTIMACY: EXPLORING THE ALTERNATIVES

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Mawaddah Consult

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[Strictly for the Married]

Regarding the need to still enjoy intimacy if the wife is incapacitated as a result of menses or post child birth. There are other ways, such as hand job, oral sex etc. 

In addition to the above, the vertical back line of a woman can be explored for thrusting with the use of a lubricant. It is known as the vertebral region. 

Procedure: She bends her back while the man rests his hands on her shoulders and places the penis on that line. The lubricant will help it to move up and down without hindrance.

Several parts of the body of both genders can be used to attain pleasure between couples at a time like this. It is because of this kind of situation that sex should not be narrowed down to vaginal penetration. There are other ways to be explored and couples would be satisfied to a great extent.

Meanwhile, as for men who hardly last long especially in the first round of sex or those who have been diagnosed with quick ejaculation or premature ejaculation, the best solution is for them to take their time on foreplay. Some men's foreplay does not go beyond 5 mins and they do not have the capacity to last in penetration.

The first thing is to master the simultaneous stimulation of both the nipples and the clitoris. He should not rush. He can start with an erotic massage with lubricant dealing with all the sensitive parts of her body, such as the buttocks, waist, shoulders, neck, earlobes, navel, thighs and the back of the thighs. He should communicate with her to ensure that she enjoys it. It is a consensus among the scholars that a should not rush for penetration. He should allow his wife to get satisfaction from those stimulations first before thinking of penetration because he may ejaculate quickly as expected and leave his wife to suffer a lack of satisfaction. 

This problem is rampant. Most women keep quiet on this because they don't know what their husband will feel if they talk about it. One of the most important things in sex is communication. Marriage is not a barracks. It is not slavery. Both parties deserve to enjoy it and communication is key here. Getting women aroused and releasing quickly after rushing to penetration is one of the greatest punishments you can give them in this life. 

In fact, before such a man goes for penetration, his wife can make use of his fingers, thigh or knee to derive pleasure first before he finishes up with penetration. There is a need for couples to understand each other in this regard. There is a need to value and prioritize women's sexual pleasure and not think that they should take whatever that is thrown at them. This is dangerous. They are human beings and one of the main reasons they are married is to enjoy sex. 

Taking Viagra or any sexual enhancement medicine is very dangerous. Let all couples know this and know peace.