BROTHER IN-LAW IS DEATH
By
Ibn Abdillah As-sudaisiy Al-Iloori
It is important to note that displaying of beauty by a woman is meant for her husband alone and to some extent, those who are permitted to have access to her adornments. So, her adornments are not free for all as many Muslim women have turn it to in our society.
Our women who wear hijab (niqab) are beautiful and pretty. When other women see them in their homes, they do appreciate this fact. What make them to be distinctive is their practise of showing their beauty and adornments only to those who are allowed to see them under the shar'iah. What women are to be wearing inside the home or bedroom shouldn't be worn in public where everyone would be able to view them. Some people would see women in hijab (niqab) inside the sun and be mocking them for covering everything. They are not pleasing anybody except Allaah. They are enduring the heat of this world to be able to enjoy the fresh air of the hereafter. May Allaah reward them abundantly.
The Islamic injunctions on dressing for women suggests that a woman cannot display her adornments or use perfumes beyond the vicinity of those who are her mahārim (those who fall in the category of persons that are prohibited for her to marry). In a hadith, any woman who uses perfume outside the home or in public domain is llikened to an adulteress. For a woman to be seen by non mahārim or go out to the public, the shar'iah stipulates that she wears her full hijab, avoid fake adornments, attachments, use of perfumes or any other thing that can draw the attention of strange men or non mahram towards her. Allaah says:
And tell the believing women to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts and not expose their adornment except that which [necessarily] appears thereof and to wrap [a portion of] their headcovers over their chests and not expose their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers, their brothers' sons, their sisters' sons, their women, that which their right hands possess, or those male attendants having no physical desire, or children who are not yet aware of the private aspects of women. And let them not stamp their feet to make known what they conceal of their adornment. And turn to Allah in repentance, all of you, O believers, that you might succeed. [Q24:31]
Contrary to what is prevalent in our society today where women leave their body open or wrap their heads with transparent veils or fashionable pashmina and decorated scarves just anywhere, a woman shouldn't appear before her non-mahārim without full hijab and even niqab (face veil) if possible. Her brothers in-law are not her mahārim, and therefore shouldn't have access to her adornments or have some unnecessary interaction with her. In a hadith, the Messenger of Allaah صلى الله عليه وسلم described the brother in-law as "iku" (death). If this is the case, what more of those strange men online and offline who have access to your adornments without just cause?
A husband would leave his wife and his own brother or male cousin alone with his wife and go out or even travel for days, months or years. This is not Islaam. We need to change. We have a lot to do to curb or reduce the rate of zina in our society.
Again, this is not a matter of having trust issue or feeling insecured. It is a matter of tying the 🐫 and relying on Allaah. Many people who feel safe and protected from the antics of shaytaan are likely to fall into his traps. If we feel safe from the plans of shaytaan (our greatest enemy), then, how was he able to mislead our first parents and cause their eviction from their first place of abode? A scholar said.
وَلَوْلاكَ لَمْ يَسْلَمْ مِنْ إِبْلِيسَ عابِدٌ
فَكَيفَ وَقَدْ أَغْوَى صَفِيَّكَ آدَما
"But for your protection and guidance, no worshipper would have escaped Iblis's temptation
And, how would that be, when he indeed misled Adam, your chosen one" (Translated by Sanusi Lafiagi)
May Allaah forgive our sins and guide us
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